Just as “certainty” can seriously undermine our transformation, a “blaming” mindset can covertly keep us stuck.
Normal people don’t walk around saying “I blame others for most bad outcomes and don’t take personal responsibility.” It is amazing how few people acknowledge this common pattern, yet how widely it is expressed in everyday life. I’m not here to criticize people for this self deception, but rather help expose the pattern so you can release it and grow. This is a common part of the human machine we can grow beyond, but only with the fortitude to look past our comfort zone.
What do I mean by “blame?” I mean attributing the cause of events, circumstances, and even your own actions and thoughts, as originating outside yourself. Sometimes this involves specifically communicating that others are at fault, but mostly it is an insidious internal habit. The habit creates external causes for your life, particularly the aspects you don’t like. This forms the basis of a — dramatic pause — a victim mindset. In stronger forms, I believe this blame habit is the root of many clear victimization perspectives, wherein people attribute much of their life to other people, the system, the unfair world, the evil human parents, and so on. As with the blame habit, no one thinks they have a victim mindset. Both are subtle infections that undermine our lives from the inside out, rather than appear in our internal awareness.
Sometimes it is reasonable to blame others. You’re eating in a restaurant and someone crashes into your legally parked car. A burglar breaks into a locked building and steals something. Even in these cases, beware of subtle hiding of your participation and power — did you park properly, did you secure your valuables reasonably? Even if you are not the cause, be open to learn and alter the circumstance in the future when appropriate.
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A member recently asked this question, framing a few key points on the member’s view on Holosync. While I don’t really want to compare directly with other products, I do think some good questions were raised and I will address those in this post.
Before I quote the question and provide my answer, I want to state that Holosync is a successful product with a strong reputation, that I believe was well-earned. We have a different approach and different pricing model, as in free, but this site doesn’t offer any customization or intense personal support. If their program seems to fit with where you are and you can afford it, give it a try. I believe they have a satisfaction guarantee and there is little risk on your part.
There are many differences in the approaches. Of course, I believe the programs here are more effective at driving personal change on average. However, they likely say the same of their program and expound the unique power of Holosync. Since individuals vary, your mileage could vary as well.
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  Just Listen to Reprogram Your Brain There are a wide variety of products and programs that offer to help you grow and achieve in various ways. Many of these programs offer substantial benefits over a period of weeks or months. Very few personal growth approaches offer significant long term change and help you operate at a higher level. The market is also saturated with copycat products and simplistic placebos. This has ultimately convinced many people that the personal development and self-help field is less than wonderful.
I have tried and reviewed many of these and look for the theory and core efficacy in every offering and technique. In every article, book, or study, I look for repeatable gains and benefits. Though many products and individual techniques offer some benefits, none offer the long term potential I believe is possible. I’ve always believed personal development programs could be taken to vastly improved levels. The journey and commitment is still long, but the accumulated results could be much greater.
Over time, I’ve used passionate curiosity and mental rigor as a guide. I discuss and validate the concepts at length, including working with psychiatrists and psychologists to get their perspective on these non-medical products. My current theory and perspective in personal development builds on many great teachers, researchers, leaders, and thinkers.
I have gradually synthesized a hybrid neurological, psychological, and developmental framework for human growth and achievement. For over three decades, I have been creating programs of various types to help people in their quest for personal growth and achievement.
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 Abraham Maslow created a widely referenced hierarchy of needs. There is little doubt that satisfying our basic physical and security needs are a precondition to awareness and growth of higher levels. I’m assuming people who read this have already passed through most levels of Maslow’s hierarchy.
You now seek to grow beyond your emotions, inhibitions, and mindsets, upgrading a few personality traits and behaviors along the way. You’d like to achieve a perfect ‘gestalt’ in your internal and material life – such as open, flowing, evolving, compassionate, spiritual presence, and outwardly successful in areas you choose.
Our society has evolved a background of materialism, reductionism, voyeurism, and a host of other facets that work against the realization of these growth goals. I refer to the full expression of this spectrum of goals and traits as an “emergent” person, in the sense that they have emerged from the background noise of their brain and the world. In a different sense, many people are “emergent manifestations” of our world, rather than full actors that have emerged in the first sense. I refer to emergent only in the positive sense, as none of us want to be just an emergent property of the universe.
I characterize growth into four practical stages, plus one:
- Sleeping – embroiled in life, unaware of growth in the terms described here
- Awakening – aware of the possibility, engages a process toward emergence
- Transforming – experiencing obvious shifts and changes in their evolution
- Emergence – Significant ongoing experiences of openness, flow, and so on
- Enlightenment / Divine Consciousness – A fully emergent being and beyond
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I’m about to divide people into two rough groups. Please excuse my stereotyping of the complexity that is inherent in each of as individuals and as a society. The world is not neatly divided into categories and types. I’m using this for illustrative purposes, to give insight into how people grow at the deepest levels. This is not “true” or “right” in any sense. It is not a judgment of people’s value or potential. Interpret this with an open mind and look for a preponderance of characteristics, not a literal interpretation. Everyone has elements of both, but look at the most central issues and desires and see how they fit. Consider the approach and see if it helps you understand the personal growth process and two wildly different sorts of paths.
With regard to personal growth, people seem to fall into two rough groups. The first is a group that stabilizes early in life, from a personality, trans-formative growth perspective. The second is a somewhat smaller group that mixes in varying doses of seeking, reflecting, and thriving on paradigm shifts.
Continue reading The Evolving Person – Are You Static or Dynamic?
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