Just as “certainty” can seriously undermine our transformation, a “blaming” mindset can covertly keep us stuck.
Normal people don’t walk around saying “I blame others for most bad outcomes and don’t take personal responsibility.” It is amazing how few people acknowledge this common pattern, yet how widely it is expressed in everyday life. I’m not here to criticize people for this self deception, but rather help expose the pattern so you can release it and grow. This is a common part of the human machine we can grow beyond, but only with the fortitude to look past our comfort zone.
What do I mean by “blame?” I mean attributing the cause of events, circumstances, and even your own actions and thoughts, as originating outside yourself. Sometimes this involves specifically communicating that others are at fault, but mostly it is an insidious internal habit. The habit creates external causes for your life, particularly the aspects you don’t like. This forms the basis of a — dramatic pause — a victim mindset. In stronger forms, I believe this blame habit is the root of many clear victimization perspectives, wherein people attribute much of their life to other people, the system, the unfair world, the evil human parents, and so on. As with the blame habit, no one thinks they have a victim mindset. Both are subtle infections that undermine our lives from the inside out, rather than appear in our internal awareness.
Sometimes it is reasonable to blame others. You’re eating in a restaurant and someone crashes into your legally parked car. A burglar breaks into a locked building and steals something. Even in these cases, beware of subtle hiding of your participation and power — did you park properly, did you secure your valuables reasonably? Even if you are not the cause, be open to learn and alter the circumstance in the future when appropriate.
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A member recently asked this question, framing a few key points on the member’s view on Holosync. While I don’t really want to compare directly with other products, I do think some good questions were raised and I will address those in this post.
Before I quote the question and provide my answer, I want to state that Holosync is a successful product with a strong reputation, that I believe was well-earned. We have a different approach and different pricing model, as in free, but this site doesn’t offer any customization or intense personal support. If their program seems to fit with where you are and you can afford it, give it a try. I believe they have a satisfaction guarantee and there is little risk on your part.
There are many differences in the approaches. Of course, I believe the programs here are more effective at driving personal change on average. However, they likely say the same of their program and expound the unique power of Holosync. Since individuals vary, your mileage could vary as well.
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The Omega Mind Program builds on our other successful and powerful program, The Secret Brain Transformation Program (“classic”). Both programs employ intensely powerful techniques, leveraging recent theory in neuroscience to dramatically extend time-tested and proven self-improvement and transformation methods.
The classic program is essentially content free, leaving you to follow directions and mind your thoughts at all times as you learn its techniques to re-goal your brain and mind. Although positive changes occur along the way, it may take a few months to achieve the first shocking “aha” with the classic program – a point when you know positively you have a new hyper-powerful tool for change.
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 Neural Networks and Myelination I’ve always pondered why personality can seem so fixed and relatively immutable, even when the individual seems committed to change themselves. As with many things I’ve studied about people over time, a strong neurological aspect appears underpin the highly stable personality/psychological constructs.
After reading Daniel Coyle’s book, “The Talent Code,” I see another possible good explanation. The key aspects of his work relevant to us:
- There are two factors that influence brain performance when myelination is strong. First, the nerves transmit much faster, up to 100 times as fast. Secondly, late arriving signals in the brain, those that didn’t take the faster myelin routes, are generally ignored when they do complete, if a substantial number of the faster myelination paths have already fired.
- The effect is that highly learned pathways become super-highways of the brain. The local streets, where you walk around at one one-hundredth the speed, are essentially ignored whenever you activate the super-highways. Once built, the super-highway owns much of your thought and behavior. That may be what you want for golf or violin, where there isn’t time to be consciously choosing each motion, but not so much for your personality.
I’ll now give you my synthesis on what this means to us in our core personality and being.
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I’m about to divide people into two rough groups. Please excuse my stereotyping of the complexity that is inherent in each of as individuals and as a society. The world is not neatly divided into categories and types. I’m using this for illustrative purposes, to give insight into how people grow at the deepest levels. This is not “true” or “right” in any sense. It is not a judgment of people’s value or potential. Interpret this with an open mind and look for a preponderance of characteristics, not a literal interpretation. Everyone has elements of both, but look at the most central issues and desires and see how they fit. Consider the approach and see if it helps you understand the personal growth process and two wildly different sorts of paths.
With regard to personal growth, people seem to fall into two rough groups. The first is a group that stabilizes early in life, from a personality, trans-formative growth perspective. The second is a somewhat smaller group that mixes in varying doses of seeking, reflecting, and thriving on paradigm shifts.
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There is state of being that I call emergence. It bears much resemblance to terms such as transcendence, flow, heightened awareness, or spiritual awakening. I refer to a balanced gestalt of all these facets and many more. Emergence is the upper band of achievable human conscious attainment.
Although the names, methods, creed, and details differ, these terms all attempt to catch an ineffable state of experience in concise language. It is ineffable is because the experience is very rich, varied, and rare. There would be no easy words for Blue or Loud if the vast majority of people had never experienced sight or sound.
Now that I’ve extended, contorted, and re-coined a word, I’ll get to the topic at hand. I have broken the evolution and growth of personal consciousness into five stages. These include sleeping, awakening, transforming, and emergence. The last stage, which I can’t help with it, is achieving divine consciousness, enlightenment, and similar states. See five stages of growth for more on that topic.
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 The Talent Code by Daniel Coyle The Talent Code, by Daniel Coyle, is a four star book that deserves an extra star if you track the hidden sub-text. Coyle covers a crucial topic on brain learning entirely from the perspective of developing extreme talent. For example, developing skills such as becoming an extremely talented soccer player, violinist, vocalist, golfer, and so on. He indicates that recent studies show two very interesting properties related to myelin.
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The book “Megabrain” by Michael Hutchison was a seminal work in personal development programs. At this point, mostly a historical curiosity, but the book did shake up the personal growth and self-help arena — driving exploration of performance transformation beyond traditional books and seminars on tape.
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